I recently did an interview about the problem of pornography among Christians. The online responses to this article were interesting; one was representative: “Stop sex from being an evil, hidden and dirty act and people will stop their hidden behavior… These things are nothing to be ashamed of.”
Has the church shamed people about their sexual feelings? Have we made it a dirty thing? In many cases, yes. But from a biblical perspective sex is hot, steamy and wild. If you haven’t heard that before you haven’t heard the true biblical position. I am one Christian who is absolutely pro-sex and I’m not ashamed to say it! I didn’t learn that from a repressive religion but from the Old and New Testaments.
In Proverbs husbands are told, “May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love” (Prov. 5:18-19, NIV).
Another biblical book is dedicated to sexual love. In the Song of Solomon we see a couple going on and on about how sexy the other is. The woman calls her husband “my lover”; the Hebrew word is dodi, which means “to boil.” These two sizzled!
In one place the husband says, “You are a garden locked up, my sister, my bride; you are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain.” Then this “fountain” is unlocked for him and he says, “You are a garden fountain, a well of flowing water streaming down from Lebanon.” His bride responds by saying, “Let my lover come into his garden and taste its choice fruits” (Song 4:12, 15, 16, NIV). His response: “I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride; I have gathered my myrrh with my spice. I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey, I have drunk my wine and my milk” (Song 5:1, NIV). What are these two doing? They certainly aren’t getting something out of the fridge! The language is poetic to hide its true meaning from the kids. (Like I said—hot and steamy.)
Does all this sound repressive and shameful? Hardly. Christians who actually follow their Bibles enjoy the greatest sexual freedom available. And when they do it right they enjoy this pleasure for a lifetime without threat of betrayal or sexually transmitted disease. Just because Christ-followers insist that this happen under the best possible conditions—marriage for life to one person—doesn’t mean they are anti-sex or anti-body. Quite the opposite.
So the next time you hear someone say that sex is dirty and it’s the church’s fault you’ll know they are uninformed. The real sexual shame is happening to those who are doing it wrong and have the broken hearts and lives to prove it.