and begin to see What We Are Dealing With...

Chapter taken from Breaking Free by Russell Willingham. Copyright (c) 1999 by Russell Willingham. Used by permission of InterVarsity Press, P.O. Box 1400, Downers Grove, IL  60515-1426.  

Educational Resources


Why marital disclosure is crucial but marital
interrogation will destroy you and your spouse


Listening to the right voice


Our faulty God-image: secret barrier to healing


The Nitty-Gritty of Accountability

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Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal, Barbara Steffens, Ph.D. and Marsha Means, M.A.

Shattered Vows, Deborah Laaser

Mending a Shattered Heart, Stefanie Carnes, Ph.D.

11 Most Common Betrayal Trauma Responses*

  1. Overwhelming emotions
  2. Unusual/uncharacteristic behaviors
  3. Sleep difficulties– too much/too little
  4. ‘Brain fog’– inability to think clearly, memory loss, getting lost easily
  5. Eating problems– inability to eat/overeating
  6. Anxiety/panic attacks
  7. Depression
  8. Rumination/obsessive thoughts and intrusive images/flashbacks
  9. Difficulty caring for self or others
  10. Isolation
  11. Obsessive need to check the internet history, GPS, email accounts, text message history, etc. for signs that the danger is still present

* List taken from

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